I noticed something. The foremost thought both had were not about the achievements in career or society. But raising two perfectly healthy kids and God's grace.
I first wondered why. 'Cos obviously both had enough to boast about their careers. And felt the need of mentioning us rather than the career path.
Every other specie, other than man, consider their foremost duty to reproduce. Not just reproduce, but bring out their very best traits, so the kids do survive. Survival of the fittest. Or they just keep on producing while many die but the fittest survives.
As humans "evolved" the idea became not to just mate and reproduce, but to spend leisure in all gay ways as possible. And we had enough and more free time with us. We started having diversions. And ended up diverging from the initial goal nature had set us.
Now, we see each new couple running behind their respective careers and does not stop to appreciate the beauty of life. Have kids at middle age, Give them the best nanny or play school and school, money, more money and lots more of it. They dont bring out the best imprint of themselves to the world. Even when they do, enough attention is not given to the imprint and hence, the offspring lacks in one or more areas that are to be developed after birth. Mostly, in social skills side, I have noticed.
Initially, the strongest man or the alpha male, was the one with max physical force. It has become intellectual and skilled power now, that sets apart the leader. Now, that skill is put into career and not in taking care of the kids. But when put into the investment called children, it gives amazing results.
Nature must be bringing forth calamities to curb this growth of "survival of most adapted", wherein 'adapted' means disturbing the balance of other species to survive self.
As I was mentioning, since the primary goal of any specie is to get the best offspring, when humans complete a significant part of their life, they reflect on having done that, reflexively.
Even now, that instinct is not dead. I am sure, I ll be proud of my kids more than my career. Though, mine would be a conscious effort to acknowledge it than instinctive. My imprint, will be my conscious investment...
4 comments:
Times have changes.Women have become very conscious,are educated,are financially independent,are doing as good if not better than the men professionally.It is but natural,there has to be a sacrifice for all that the women are achieving.This is a cycle,may be another 50 yrs down the line,scene may change.
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I hope it changes sooner.
parenting has gone thru drastic changes these years. U won't see any more strict fathers which was more of a convention in my generation. TOday, such cases are an exception. In case of mothers, not much change in behavior there. But the change is in the number of women ready to work along with raising their family. And in all those cases, I found that it worked only when Grand parents were there to help. Thanks to them.t
@ Arun : you talk like you are 50. :P
Anyways, it's the opposite with my family. Amma is more free with us than Appa.
But both are almost 'mathematics' ;) :D
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