10 Tips To Keep Your Child Safe(r)
Today at work, we find out that kids of this generation are too
exposed to internet and information that they need to have a class on what to
do and what not to do on the new media.
I am not going into the details of what happened but I am sure it
might be a common phenomenon.
Recently, a friend of my boyfriend had some complications in her
pregnancy and after telling me about it, he asked me if I was scared of
pregnancy myself. Now, I love kids and pregnancy is something every woman looks
forward to. Even if it means she has to go through a lot of pain for that,
herself.
But the incident that happened today, scared me. I am worried this
is the kind of world I have to send my kids to-like Phoebe was with her
brother's triplets-. Rapists who do not understand the concept of right and
wrong, Internet filled with things kids should not be exposed to at such a
tender age. I didn't even know such words existed when I was that age. (Of the mischief
maker who made all of us go 'ewwwww' at his behaviour)
Why should I say more than the fact that at that age, I used to
think kids happened when people kissed or hugged!
May be you would call it ignorance and probably that ignorance
kept me innocent for a longer time. But today, I understand kids should be
educated about the pitfalls and loopholes in interacting with the outside
world. But it is totally a subjective decision of any parent/ guardian on how
much the kid should know.
So, what should you do as a parent?
1.
The identity of a child has to be secure no matter where it is. Online or
offline. Do whatever you have to do for that. It is your duty to keep the child
safe.
2.
There is a lot of violence in the video games these days. Be sure of what kind
of games the child gets into. Since it shapes the way the kid thinks about
violence, he might end up believing violent ways of achieving his end goals are
fine. Bullies are born out of such kids.
3.
Depending on what the kids spend time on, the internet could turn out to be the
new era idiot box.
4.
Social interactions online are to be monitored. Online predators and crimes
against children through this media are on the rise.
5.
Cellphones are a tool for connectivity today. But it also is a platform for
unsolicited attention for your child from antisocial predators. Long back, we
used to have a mentally disturbed man call our landline and talk crap. We
installed a caller id and called him back to find out that it was a public
telephone booth. Someone had it all planned out. Although that booth operator took
precautions and no more calls came after that, it was disturbing to get such
calls.
Now, why would not your child report such advances? Imagine your
child fights with you to get a mobile phone. You give him the phone and then he
ends up having this trouble. The child might decide not to speak up about it
because he feels it was his fault or decision to have a phone in the first
place and mom or dad might take the phone away if this problem is reported or
scold him and punish him for it. The child does not realize the gravity of what
could happen to him.
So, be friendly while dealing with problems of technology (in
general as well). If you are unsure how to deal with it or if you are
unfamiliar with the technology yourself, please do not hesitate to take the
help of a skilled person. It will save you and your child from grave danger.
6.
Never send your child outside alone after it gets dark. I know it sounds all
'conservative' or 'Indian'. Or whatever you tend to call it. But, these
days antisocial elements have lost the sense of age or ability or any
of the normal senses attributed to humans.
Once the child is emotionally scarred, it is very difficult to
bring it back to normal life and mindsets easily. So, better be careful than
regret later. These days even neighbors or 'relatives' accompanying
the kid is not advisable. It was revealed in the study that
most of the time girls are introduced to sex trafficking through relatives
and neighbors. There are approximately 2 million child commercial sex
workers between the age of 5 and 15 years and about 3.3 million between 15 and
18 years. They form 40% of the total population of commercial sex workers in
India. 500,000 children are forced into this trade every year. (ref: smile
foundation) Hope this gives you an idea of why this post is
'conservative'.
7.
Educate them to understand that nobody has the right to abuse (define and
explain what all consists of abuse - it has a cultural context and hence I dont
want to elaborate it here) them. Ask them to raise voice or react when
something in the purview of that happens. Most importantly, train them to be
assertive about their safety.
8. I
remember, when I was in my KG, the first thing they taught me (even before I
was taught abcd) was my name and address. I could recite the address any time
you asked. This was indeed a good thing if I had gotten lost. Make sure the kid
understand about why he is learning it.
Lastly, two things I think are important:
9. Creative safety is an aspect I personally think is
important. Lets take the example of Calvin and Hobbes. (The comic strip, for those
who are *still* unaware of them.) The child is so creative and imaginative. But
finds that the parents are not conducive to his thoughts. May be you feel what
he says is rubbish. But your child has equal rights to express his thoughts as
you.
Listen to him. Understand what he says, or try to. May be a medium
like paint or blogs or pen would bring out a side you might miss out about him
otherwise. This is an important part of bringing up your child safely because
it encourages him to think freely and out of the box. An essential part of
bringing up an independent individual.
10. Emotional security is by far the most important. Let your
child know that even if you scold or reprimand the child for something, you are
always approachable and that you love him. This will give the child a
confidence to approach you when it needs. Many dangers can be averted if the
child comes and tells you about things he is not comfortable about in the
beginning stage itself.
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