Things I learned about men and mallus from my search...

1. 
   .it all wrong. The stone does not have the high probability to hit a mallu when you throw a stone there like they say.You pick a bloody stone to throw at someone, it will brush on some mallu on the way up from the ground. Mallus actually outnumber the "Gulf" native population there. 
2. Men are shallow. Looks matter. And they cant do nothing about it.
3. Most mallus are bad at English. Bad is a pathetic word to describe it. They suck at it.
4. Jobless people register in Matrimony sites more than the ones that are serious.
5. I learned that names could turn me off. The names parents put for men! Most mallus name their kids adding the 26 alphabets in front of -ini, -icy, -idy, -imy for girls and -ibin, -idin, -icin, -imin for guys. Sick.
6. I actually found a 'civil servant' who 'welds and xrays' in the 'gulf'. Good going!
7. I have a big evil grin on my face when I see some profiles. "I even know Tamil, as my dad is from Chennai." So what? Big deal. "I know Tamil even though my dad is NOT from Chennai. :P I have speculated whether I should give him hard lawyering. I do that. Just to make people go crazy at my arguments. "So what?" would definitely have been a good start. ;)
8. Another fellow had a partner preference where he didnt have a problem with the girl being taller or older. He was 6ft himself. :P
9. Men are scared of pushing the 'decline' button. Most of them just keep things hanging cos they never know how to say no. But I declined like 7 people in my second login.
10. People think "godfearing" is a damn selling point. God fearing? Really? Why do you fear it if it is good? If it is bad, why are you beneath it? I think they need to understand that God can only be loved and not feared.
    

So, all this search stuff started in January, when I decided its high time I got a guy for myself. Yeah, it was a sudden decision like most of my life decisions. So, I decide to register on m4marry, which was the first choice given that am a Mallu. Well, we mallus think that if manorama does not have it, there is nobody in the world. So, I register and start searching. If one guy was tall, he would be less educated. If someone was educated, he would be short or had a bad English. Yeah, bad English turns me off like hell. So does stupid names. Ini, Mini, Kini. bla bla.

So, I sent a request to some profiles I thought was ok. And the day after, I got my first rejection. From a guy who was ok with everything until he saw my pic. Yeah, shallow fish in the deep pond. Me being one too. Then I thought, if he cared so much about looks, it is better I dont marry him anyway. But yeah, it kinda hurt my ego a bit. Amma was informed and asked permission from after I became active in the profile. Well, after all, my parents should help. Mom asked me to go ahead and search. She kinda knew my demands kinda would make her search futile. And yeah, there was a question of "What? You have not found someone already?" which kinda made me feel like an idiot, god knows why.

Then I realize that m4marry has bad bad bad site ergonomics. You go crazy if you log in. So, I go register in keralamatrimony too. The site was more user friendly but had no messaging capabilities. Now, if you wanna browse peacefully, this is the place for you. But if you want more mallus around, m4marry is the place. So, I collaborated the messaging of m4marry and ergonomics of keralamatrimony. Would redirect people to either sites to get stuff done.

Long time later wala update:

Ah the pleasure of browsing and crapping on people! You should enjoy that even if you don't enjoy searching. Good luck people!

Cheerz!

DN